Turning 30

My 30th birthday is right around the corner and I am so excited! I hear horror stories all the time about how some people spend their 30th birthday in tears because they haven't accomplished what they wanted to accomplish in the first 30 years of their life. Makes me wonder why so much stock and pressure is put into this one number.
I can't say that I am where I want or hoped to be by now, but I am very proud of what I have accomplished!

No, I do not hold a degree of any type, but I am working towards it.

No, I am not pushing the 2010 Jag I marvel at everyday, but I'll get something better in a couple more years.

NO, I do not have my dream home but I can see it on the horizon.

No, I am not the district attorney I aspired to be as a child, I decided to do something different.

I could go on an on about all the things I don't have or haven't accomplished but I'd rather focus on the things I have right here and now.

I have my health.
I have a handsome 7 year old little boy whom I adore.
I have a lovely apartment filled with love.
I have a dependable car with four tires and an a/c that works. (Thank God for that one. Don't know what I would do without that a/C) :-)
I have a job that pays the bills and helps me to afford a comfortable lifestyle.
I have a youthful spirit and a beauty that shines in spite of the dullness that surrounds me.
I have rediscovered my passion in writing.

You see, we spend so much time focusing on what we lack that we fail to focus on all we have. Yeah, I know you've heard that line before, but it's true.

I choose to live life with my eyes wide open, arms stretched wide, and heart fully open to embrace all that each passing year has to offer.

Peace and Blessings
Brighter Future

Are you a follower or a leader?

Follower or Leader

I think there comes a time in any parent's life that they have to sit down and
have that conversation with their child about being a leader and not a follower.
My son runs into the room with a single glove on trying to be like Michael
Jackson. I must admit, he has some of those dance moves down to a science.
He holds his basketball in his hands and swears he's Lebron. He goes hard in
the paint and dunks over whatever smaller objects he finds in his room to tower
over on his little tikes basketball goal.
Is that him being a follower?
At school, on occasion, he may get in trouble for trying and doing things that
he knows are wrong just to be part of the "in crowd". I understand it! It's a
part of growing up. That's the growing pains of a child. We all went through
it.
But I've come to realize in life that sometimes you have to be a follower:
You have to follow the rules
You have to follow directions.
You have to follow someone's lead from time to time.
So I don't mind that my son wants to be like MJ, Lebron or his Dad.
I just pray that he realizes as he gets older that he has to be the Best form of
himself that he can be! Eventually he has to find a space in that little chest,
in that great big heart of his to know that he has to push out greatness that
the world has never seen by just being who he is!
Who's lead will you follow? When the time comes, what kinda leader will you be?

Foreplay

For my sexual stimulation could you please......
Take out the trash
Wash the car
Watch the kids
Clean the gutters
Pay a bill without being asked
Buy flowers just because
Scratch that, make it diamonds.

Make love to me mentally by......
Asking me how my day was
Having a conversation that doesn't involve money
Cooking dinner when you know I'm tired
Throwing the clothes in the dryer if I've put them in the wash
And turning off the game for a little quality time.

And when it comes to foreplay.....
Start with a candelight dinner
Fresh roses
A warm bubble bath
And a massage to follow

In return......
I promise to strip for you
Mke your toes curl
Call your name
Put you to sleep
And wake YOU up in the morning for round two!!

Define Love

I don't think there is a right or wrong way to define love. I believe one's definition of love changes with each successful/failed relationship, birth of a child, and lose of a loved one. I think how we view love changes as we grow older and realize the things that are most important in life.

Right now at the age of 29, love to me is defined as the emotional connection between two people.

The longing to be in that special someones presence.
Love is unconditional.
Love is all encompassing.
Love is compromising without regret.
Love is not selfish or self centered.
Love is giving.
Love is freeing.
Love is tried and true.
Love changes.
Love heals.

What's your definition of love????

Stormy Days

This weekend has been filled with stormy weather. I have seen more rain in the past few days than I have seen in the last three months. My son has run into my room more times than he normally would. I have had to stop working on my laptop at the most inopportune times.

I remember growing up as a child and wishing that the sun always shined so I could go outside and play hop-scotch. I remember wondering as a child when lightning struck, where it landed. I remember the fear and the intimidation of the thunderous clouds and the sharp lightning.


Now as a grown up, I relax in God's work. I reflex in his promise. I find comfort in a day filled with storms because I know that after the storm and the rain, the sun will shine again. I know that the puddles will clear, the rainbow will shine through. I think it's the same in life.... don't you?

Whatever your storm, trial, tribulation, obstacle......look at your storm and tell it, the sun shall shine again! And when it does, bask in it's glory. Soak it up and smile because you made it through the storm.

Brighter Future